Welcome to episode #108! Today we’re joined by Nuria Melchor Fernández
In this episode of Focus and Chill, Jeremy sits down with Nuria Melchor Fernández, an advocate passionate about supporting neurodivergent individuals with ADHD, autism, and complex trauma. Nuria opens up about her journey through love addiction recovery, 12-step programs, and navigating multiple diagnoses in Spain. She shares powerful insights into the overlap between neurodivergence and trauma, the challenges of accessing proper support, and the healing potential of community, grounding techniques, and trauma-informed therapies.
How did Nuria first realize she might have ADHD and autism?
- Through her recovery journey in 12-step programs, where peers noticed ADHD traits. Later, similarities with a friend led her to explore autism and discover her own diagnosis
Why does Nuria believe labels like “autism” or “ADHD” can be helpful?
- Labels foster self-compassion and help people connect with peers who share similar experiences, instead of internalizing negative labels like “lazy” or “weird”
What is the difference between complex trauma and single-event trauma?
- Single trauma often stems from one event (e.g., an accident), while complex trauma comes from repeated, long-term experiences like neglect, bullying, or domestic violence
How do complex trauma and neurodivergence intersect?
- Trauma can intensify difficulties with focus, anxiety, and relationships, and it’s often difficult to separate from neurodivergent traits—especially when trauma starts early
What therapies and tools does Nuria recommend for healing?
- Internal Family Systems (IFS), grounding exercises (5-4-3-2-1 method), EMDR, tapping, art therapy, and community-based mutual aid groups
What’s the role of community in healing?
- Finding peers with similar experiences provides validation, resources, and a sense of belonging—something many neurodivergent people struggle to find
Connect with Nuria:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nuriamelchorfernandez/?locale=en_US
Blog: https://nuriamelchorfernandez.bearblog.dev/
Connect with Jeremy:
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremy
Email: jeremy@focusbear.io
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Episode 108